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Monday, January 28, 2008

Words Can Hurt

Sometimes we do not realize what our words can do. We speak without thinking that someone might be hurting. We think that every one's life is just like ours and that surely they only struggle with what we struggle with... nothing more, nothing less. It is so easy to assume things about others that just isn't true. And when we assume... well, let's just say it isn't always pretty.

Sometimes we say things without even realizing that we are saying something out of sort. On more than one occasion, after I had my daughter and still carried my baby weight (well, more than I do now!) people would ask me when I was DUE! HELLO! I had her 5 weeks ago, people!! It was so embarrassing for them and for me! I just wanted to die because that weight didn't just come right off for me. THEY wanted to die for even saying it out loud. It hurt, but they didn't mean for it to!

"We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check." James 3:2

Even our Lord knows that we will get ourselves into big trouble with our mouths. He has many many verses in His Word about the tongue and how we are wise when we just keep our mouths shut! It definitely is to our benefit, and to the benefit of others, if we heed this advice. It's just so hard to stop the words sometimes.

Other times we just blurt them out... like throwing a bucket of water right on someone... full force with no thought of the repercussions. Not one thought goes to how cold the water might be or how ridiculous the person might look standing there soaking wet. We don't comprehend that the words that we say might harm them in some way and make them want to run away crying.

Often, when you deal with children they will come to a grown up to say that someone said something that hurt their feelings. Well, as grown ups who do we run to? I dare say that we do not wish to gossip about the one that harmed us, but it hurts so bad sometimes that we just need to say it! We just need to cry about it and work through the hurt. It is so hard, even as an adult to not lash out at them just to make them realize exactly what they've done! Or maybe we will walk around with that hurt bundled up inside of us and each time we see the person the grudge just grows bigger and bigger because they have harmed us and we just can't get past it.

Oh, sweet sisters. We HAVE to watch what we say! "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness." James 3:9

If the Holy Spirit brings it to your mind that perhaps you have hurt someone with your words please go and tell them that you are so sorry and ask for forgiveness. The body of Christ has to work to love one another. We are all so different with different needs and struggles. We each deal with things that are sensitive in our lives. No one will ever be perfect and we all need to be sensitive to the needs of others. We are wise to go back and make it right than to allow it to grow into bitterness that is hard to get over.

The relationships that we have are precious. We must work to protect them. Even if it means eating our words.

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